Woman Not Prepared for Reason Sister Texts Asking If She Can Take Off Work: “Quite a Shock”

A woman has been left stunned by her sister’s reason for asking her to take a day off work.

The 26-year-old woman and original poster (OP), Reddit user Valuable-Response992, shared her story on r/AmItheA******, explaining that she has always seen her older sister as a “serial dater” who has a new boyfriend “almost every time I see her”.

In her post, the OP described receiving an unexpected text from her sister asking, “Can you take off March 6th?”

When the OP asked the reason why, however, she was left stunned at her sister’s reply.

The OP wrote, “Sister: ‘I’m getting married.’ Me: ‘…’

“She hasn’t introduced me to anyone recently so seeing this text is quite a shock,” she continued. “Before New Year’s, she told me that she was dating a guy in a different state, but they just broke up.

“So if she is getting married, I’m 90 percent sure that it is probably going to be with a complete stranger.

“Either way, I do not want to be a part of it at all, I just started school, I’ve been working a lot, and I really don’t want to support my sister’s dumb decisions. Especially when I know that she hasn’t known this dude for long.

“At the end of the day, I am just scared of her getting hurt or used.”

The OP’s post sparked plenty of debate among Redditors, most of whom urged her to go to her sister’s wedding. One wrote, “This may not be ideal and may lead to divorce fairly quickly, but your sister deserves a sister.

“If this wedding is a mistake, it’ll be a mistake whether you go or not, but it would be good for your sister to know you have her back.”

Another user noted, “I don’t think this is something you can just decide without speaking to her. You’re being judgmental, which is understandable, but to just not attend the wedding will blow up your relationship with her.”

“She wants you there”

“YTA, take off a crappy day in March and celebrate your sister’s happy day, short-lived or not,” one Redditor urged. “She wants you there.”

Experts suggest sibling disagreements over weddings are not uncommon. According to The Good Trade, keeping the lines of communication open and being there for each other is important for keeping sibling bonds strong—even when things get a bit tense.

This is particularly true during life events such as weddings, where stress can magnify existing tensions.

Newsweek has contacted Valuable-Response992 comment via Reddit.

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