Woman Shocked By Date’s ‘Out Of Line’ Reaction to Bathroom: ‘Seems Crazy’
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A woman in her 30s says she was left stunned after a man she had been dating for just over a month criticized her bathroom setup following an overnight stay.
The account, shared by Reddit user abstract_lemons, described what she believed was a routine interaction that ended with an unexpected text message.
More than 5,700 comments have responded to her appeal for advice within five days.
‘It’s weird’
According to the post, the couple had been casually dating, and the man, in his 40s, had spent the night at her home several times.
During his most recent visit, he told her in the morning that he needed to use the bathroom. She mentioned that she kept a bottle of Poo-Pourri in a basket by the toilet if he wanted to use it.
When he emerged, she noticed he seemed withdrawn. Shortly after leaving her home, he texted: “it’s weird that you made me dive into your period s*** to have some self respect about an actual s***.”
The woman told fellow Redditors that she was confused by his reaction, asking whether she was wrong to keep period products visible in her own bathroom.
“Did I do something wrong? Am I overreacting to think that he’s way out of line? This seems crazy to me,” she posted, questioning whether she should make her bathroom, “more accommodating to people of the opposite sex.”
‘Absolutely not’
Reddit pundits overwhelming sided with the OP and had words for her partner.
“You are dating a man-child,” declared one, “You’re organized and prepared and I love it!”
Another supporter summed up: “He performed a normal bodily function and wanted to be treated with dignity, but then shamed you for a normal female bodily function? Huh? Make that make sense.
“Very immature of him. I would have to say something. He wants the pleasure your body offers, but is grossed out by hygiene products your body requires? Absolutely not.”
Conversations about discomfort around menstruation are not new.
In a article for Thinx, Arielle Egozi wrote, “I have period trauma. Many of us period-having folk probably do—that’s what happens when you grow up in a society where a very normal, routine thing that happens to your body is seen as dirty, shameful, gross and something to hide.”
The piece included advice from sex educator and associate marriage and family therapist Louise Head, who suggested framing the issue within cultural messaging.
“Culture has always taught us, even me, that periods are gross, but that’s not true. Periods are a part of life, often an important one,” Head said in the article.
“It would mean a lot to me if we both worked against that culture in our relationship.”
‘The first bad sign’
Research has also examined how criticism tied to personal traits can affect romantic partnerships.
“The first bad sign in a relationship is criticism, which is attacking a person’s character instead of their behavior,” according to a Verywell Mind article by Anabelle Bernard Fournier, as previously reported by Newsweek.
Back on the latest case, the OP did not indicate whether she planned to continue seeing the man. She asked others whether visible menstrual products should be considered offensive in a shared space.
Pundits largely rejected that notion, arguing that bathroom items linked to routine bodily functions should not be a source of shame.
Newsweek has reached out to abstract_lemons for comment via Reddit. We could not verify the details of the case.
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