Groom Furious “Greedy” Bride Wants to Save Wedding Money for Future Children: “Rude”

A bride-to-be is facing unexpected conflict with her fiancé over how to spend their wedding budget.

The 28-year-old woman and original poster (OP), Reddit user Strong-Presence-8273, shared her dilemma on r/AmItheA******, explaining that her father had gifted each of his daughters $120,000 for their weddings.

While her sisters spent the money on their ceremonies, she proposed a more conservative plan: $70,000 for the wedding, $10,000 for the honeymoon, and saving the remaining $40,000 for their future children’s expenses. Her father agreed, provided she could stick to the revised budget.

However, this decision didn’t sit well with her 36-year-old fiancé.

The OP wrote, “He said I was rude for not wanting to use all the money for a wedding he would love, claiming that going over budget was fine because this was our most important day. He has always dreamed of a grand wedding with lots of guests.

“He criticized the venue I liked, an old library that only seats 180 and fits our budget. He said I was being rude by limiting my guest list to 60 people so he could invite 120 of his family.

“He also accused me of being “greedy” for wanting to save the leftover money and said I looked like I was hoarding it. He argued that since we are financially well-off, I shouldn’t worry about saving for future children.

“He also mentioned that our wedding planner had supposedly said I was being greedy, though he later admitted to making that up to show me how rude I was being.

“I thought I was being fiscally responsible by saving the extra money, but now I’m questioning if I’ve made the right decision.”

The Reddit community, however, overwhelmingly supported the OP’s stance. One user urged, “DO NOT MARRY THIS MAN until AFTER the two of you have gone through some serious pre-nuptial counseling.

“The number one reason that people divorce is over money issues. And you two are not even on the same continent, let alone the same page. This is important OP. Do it. You, and your future children, deserve it.”

Another user echoed similar concerns, noting, “I know this is what every Reddit person says on wedding posts but, you’re sure you want to marry this man?

“Maybe it’s just the stress of the wedding getting to him and usually he’s super nice but this does not sound like behavior I would want from a fiancé as we’re about to go into our life bound together.”

Financial Disagreements and Communication

While financial disagreements are common in relationships, experts suggest that deeper communication issues may be at play.

Marriage.com notes that differing values over finances can indicate broader incompatibilities and that couples who struggle to align on spending and saving habits often face challenges that extend beyond their wedding day.

Similarly, a Newsweek article highlights the importance of effective communication in relationships, particularly when coming to major decisions. Mismatched financial expectations can lead to misunderstandings and resentment, which could undermine the stability of the partnership if not addressed early on.

Newsweek has contacted Strong-Presence-8273 for comment via Reddit.

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