Mom Baffled At Daughter’s Low Birthday Party Attendance—Then She Realizes

A mother of two has turned to Reddit for help after noticing a sharp contrast in attendance between her children’s birthday parties.

The original poster (OP), user throwaway89123, shared her story on Reddit, explaining that her son, who has a winter birthday, always sees large turnouts when the family hosts parties at budget-friendly indoor venues like bowling alleys, arcades and gymnastics studios.

“Usually, 3/4 of the kids turn up, some bringing siblings, so we end up with 25-30 kids each year,” the OP wrote. “We bring pizza and cupcakes and little goodie bags.”

Her daughter’s late spring birthday celebrations are a different story.

Despite hosting at a nearby park with a splash pad and updated playground, and offering the same food and favors, only two to four classmates typically show up and her daughter is left “bummed by the low turnout.”

“Both of my kids are fairly outgoing, and I know my daughter plays with a number of different kids, as she mentions them by name,” the OP continued.

“She gets invites to classmates’ birthday parties and the other kids seem to like her. The park is very close to her school, so presumably, people live nearby or are OK with the commute.

“They are only 1 year apart, so I don’t think it’s an age thing. Is it just that people won’t come to ‘cheap’ birthday parties anymore?”

Reddit users flocked to the comments to weigh in, with one speculating, “I would think it’s because during Winter, the parents need an indoor activity to keep their kids busy, but in the Spring, they have more options.

“So higher turnout in Winter when parents need it and not in the Spring when they have other things going on.”

Another added, “This is about the time of year, not the location… A winter birthday would likely get more school attendees, as parents are looking for something to do with their kids.

“The other part, honestly, is that a park party is more work for the parents as well. But more of the first part.”

Party Planning

Concerns about low attendance have also been raised by party planning writers. Jennifer Needham, founder of The Party Teacher, described a similar situation in a January post about a child whose guests failed to appear.

“Parents everywhere are posting about inviting 20 kids and having 2 show up, questioning whether birthday parties are even ‘a thing’ anymore,” Needham wrote.

She advised parents to watch out for scheduling conflicts, writing, “Holiday weekends are terrible for parties. So is Spring Break week. The weekend the time changes. The first warm, beautiful day of spring when everyone just wants to be outside.”

‘They remember how they felt’

Other parenting voices urge families to rethink the pressure around parties. A post from Happy Simple Mom stresses that celebrations do not have to be elaborate to feel meaningful.

“They won’t remember how much you spent making their day special. They remember how they felt,” the author wrote, encouraging parents to focus on traditions and simple gestures rather than cost.

For the OP, the feedback suggested that spring calendars filled with sports, travel and warm weather activities may be thinning guest lists more than venue choice or party budget.

As families weigh packed schedules against invitations, the difference between a winter indoor gathering and a sunny park party may come down to timing rather than price.

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