Woman Comforting Girlfriend Over the Phone Not Prepared for What ‘Nosy’ Friend Does

A young woman’s night out with friends was disrupted when her “nosy” pal tried to pry into her girlfriend’s personal life to the point of grabbing her phone while they were calling.

The 22-year-old, who shared her story in a Reddit post this week, explained that her also 22-year-old girlfriend, Layne, had been out of town dealing with personal matters.

Pushed for Details

While most of her friends respected her privacy, one 23-year-old friend, Freya, repeatedly pushed for details.

At first, the original poster (OP) dismissed Freya’s questions as concern, responding that Layne was away for family-related reasons and preferred to keep it private. But Freya didn’t drop the issue.

She continued pressing, ignoring polite refusals.

The situation came to a head when the group was at a bar and Layne called. Stepping outside to answer, the woman assured her girlfriend she would head home to focus on their conversation.

As she briefly returned to let her friends know she was leaving, Freya reached for the phone, attempting to question Layne directly.

“I backed up and held the phone to my chest, completely surprised because seriously, what the [expletive]?” the woman wrote. She yelled at Freya to back off and left.

The next day, messages from friends were divided—some supported her, while others accused her of embarrassing Freya for, “Just being concerned.”

Common Struggle

The situation reflects a common struggle in friendships: knowing when concern turns into intrusion.

According to Verywell Mind, experts recommend clear and direct communication when dealing with friends who overstep.

Clinical psychologist Sabrina Romanoff suggests using “I” statements, stating needs without over-explaining, and reinforcing limits when necessary.

Freya’s behavior also raised questions about toxic friendships. Newsweek reports that unhealthy friendships often involve control, a lack of respect for personal space and guilt-tripping when boundaries are enforced.

Toxic behavior is sometimes disguised as concern, making it difficult to recognize at first.

Reddit users largely supported the woman’s reaction. As one user wrote, “Freya tried to take your phone to ask invasive questions about something that has nothing to do with her. I would definitely keep my distance.”

‘Off-limits’

Another user commented, “Sounds like you gave Freya plenty of gentle warnings that the topic was private and off-limits, and she ignored them.”

While the OP has yet to reply in the comments section, a fellow Redditor noted that, “If Freya is really close enough to your [girlfriend] to be let in on what she’s going through, then surely she’s close enough to have her phone number.”

Newsweek has contacted Mediocre_Nebula1791 for comment via Reddit.

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