Woman Who Told Husband About Plan For Haircut A Month In Advance Stunned By His Reaction

A woman whose husband reacted furiously to her getting a haircut has been backed by netizens.

The 28-year-old woman and original poster (OP), Reddit user Lazy-Department3052, shared her story on r/AITAH, explaining that she had mentioned to her husband, “Joe”, “several times” for a month that she was planning on getting a haircut.

However, Joe would always stay glued to his phone—something he’s tended to do “a lot” lately, she noted.

“I asked him if I would fit a bob, or just shorter hair or even color! He would just nod or say, ‘That’s your choice,’ not even looking up from his phone,” she added.

Last Friday, the OP booked her appointment at the hairdresser for Monday and told her husband, though all he had to say was “good” as he stared at his phone.

Fast-forward to after her appointment, when the OP was “excited” to show her husband the shorter cut with blonde highlights she received.

The OP wrote, “When I got home, Joe finally looked up from his phone and got furious when he saw my hair and yelled “Why did you change your hair? How much did that cost? Why didn’t you tell me?”

“I was at a loss for words and said calmly back, ‘But I told you on Friday that my hair appointment was today. I even mentioned it a month back but you’ve been so obsessed with your phone that you probably don’t even notice me anymore.’

“I do regret the last thing I said, because he got even more angry, packed a bag and left to his mother’s. So did I overreact?”

To many Redditors who answered her call for feedback, however, the answer was no.

One of the many users who backed the OP wrote, “NTA and you shouldn’t regret speaking the truth. Had he paid any attention to you or what you said, he wouldn’t have been surprised.

“Besides, it’s your hair, do what you want. Husband needs a wake-up call. You under-reacted, in my opinion.”

A second user simply responded, “NTA. He’s an idiot,” while one suggested, “Something’s up with him that isn’t hair-related, his reaction was overboard…Something’s up with him, his reaction is suss AF.”

It seems the OP is beginning to think the same thing.

“I’m starting to suspect cheating”

In an update, the OP added that her husband had texted her and apologized for the way he acted, saying he “loves my hair, but got confused because I ‘didn’t tell him’ when I told him a month before, leading up to now”.

They also talked on the phone and he said he “understood” where the OP was coming from. However, he’s still refusing to come home.

“I’m starting to suspect cheating and will be checking his computer later today,” the OP wrote. “I know that’s invading his privacy, but I need to know…”

According to Psych Central, cheating in relationships is “common” in the U.S. among “all age groups.” Some common signs of cheating include changes in communication, attitude, or technology use, as well as an increased time spent away from home, per Verywell Mind.

Newsweek has contacted Lazy-Department3052 for comment via Reddit.

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