Woman’s Theory About Experience ‘Every Girl’ Has Before 30 Goes Viral

A TikTok theory about an oddly common friendship fallout is striking a chord with women across social media.

In the viral video, which has racked up 1.3 million views and over 65,000 likes, a woman claims that many women will attend their best friend’s wedding—sometimes even as a bridesmaid—only to never speak to that friend again after the big day.

“Universal experience that every girl has before she turns 30 is going to her best friend’s wedding, probably in the wedding, leaving that wedding at the end of the night, never being friends with that girl again,” the creator said in the video, adding, “I don’t make the rules.”

The comments section quickly filled with women who had lived this exact scenario.

“Two of my bridesmaids blocked me after the wedding, and I swear on my life, I didn’t do anything to deserve it,” one person wrote. “All you can do is laugh.”

Others confirmed just how common the pattern is. One nail technician wrote, “As a nail tech, I’ve asked every married woman how many bridesmaids they’re still close with and not a single one in five years has ever answered more than two.”

Another woman recalled her own bridesmaid completely vanishing post-wedding: “Wow, how is this so common?” she wrote. “My bridesmaid literally left the wedding at the end of the night, I called her for days. No response. Just never heard from her again.”

Theories on why so many friendships dissolve after a wedding varied. Some blamed the financial and emotional strain on the bridal party, while others pointed to changing relationship dynamics or the way brides treat their friends in the lead-up to the big day.

“What happens is in the lead up to the wedding, the bride starts neglecting her friends and putting a lot of strain on them social/financial/energetic…on top of treating them like props,” one person suggested.

Another agreed: “It’s typically because the bride is blind to how awful she treated everyone in the name of ‘her day.’ BUT watching this several times made me the absolute chillest, low maintenance bride.”

The TikTok creator herself weighed in on the discussion, summing up some of the main reasons these friendships don’t survive. “Yeah, bridezilla, toxic fiancés, ridiculous expectations on her bridal party, jealousy, the list goes on. Probably weren’t as great of friends as we thought,” she wrote.

With so many people relating to the experience, a pattern seems to be emerging: weddings may mark the start of a marriage, but they also seem to signal the end of more friendships than anyone realized.

Newsweek reached out to @iwenttoartschool for comment via TikTok.